Chika Jonah Writes

Author: Chika Jonah

  • GUEST POST : The love walk; My first time in a five star hotel

    This is a compelling story that made me laugh as much as it made me think a lot. There’s a smart question at the end of this story. I still don’t know the answer to the question so maybe you’ll help me by answering it after reading this story

    My featured guest writer this week is; Ewenla Olabanji.

    BIO – Living a purposeful life and maximizing life’s gifts is the major thing that drives Ewenla Olabanji and everything he does.
    He believes our world would be a much better place if more people are living in their purpose – doing what they are meant to do with their lives and also maximizing everything life has got to offer.

    This is his core purpose – to help people develop the right mindset so they can utilize their potentials, maximize life’s gifts and fulfill their life’s purpose.

    He is a budding entrepreneur, a life coach in training & a musician.

    You can message him
    On Instagram – @eolabanjisamuel
    Facebook – Olabanji Ewenla
    Email: Banjidyte20@yahoo.com

    Here’s what Olabanji says;

    So am just going to briefly share a long story that may be all you need to face this year.

    I remember vividly that Sunday on the 27th of August 2017, it was a Sunday like every other Sunday; I had gone to church early in the morning, did my duties on the piano keyboard as a musician and gone back home to rest. However one thing was different, I was going to be attending a business meeting that evening for the first time in my life at one of the best hostels in Lagos (Sheraton Hotel & Towers)

    Interestingly, I didn’t even know why I was been invited but I decided to attend, majorly because it would be my first time in Sheraton Hotel. winks*

    I was nervous and at the same time excited like a young man going out on a first date with his first love.

    The friend who invited me was a lady so I guess that was probably another reason why I was nervous & excited.

    I don’t know if you’ve experienced that strong feeling of excitement born out of curiosity because you didn’t know what was going to happen or what to expect? That was the feeling I felt.

    Fast forward some hours later, I arrived at the Hotel a little bit late and the meeting was about to get started; I couldn’t meet my friend who invited me, neither could I even enjoy the breathtaking interiors of the hotel; I just rushed into the hall as i was directed to, got myself a seat somewhere in the middle as the presentation was about to begin.

    To cut the long story short, the 3hrs of that evening on 27th of August 2017 brought me into another phase of my life – when I got home later that night after the meeting I couldn’t really sleep.

    Today Monday, 17th of January, 2020 makes it about 28 months after that whole evening experience.
    I look back at the past 2years and i am amazed by how much my life has changed from that one event of 3hrs; only people who knew me before that Sunday may be able to share the tremendous transformation that has occurred in my life.

    Looking forward, as we are all prepping to live life in 2020 and the next decade, one of the things we can do for ourselves is to be open to surprises life will launch at us – either good or bad; everything that can change your life for good or for bad can happen in just few hours, few minutes or even few seconds.
    In most cases, you won’t recognize the changes as at the time they are occurring until months or even years later.

    A lot of things will happen this year and over the next decade; be open minded to opportunities and challenges; be sensitive to changes; be mindful of times and seasons; be careful in dealing with people; watch and pray.

    If you are open to surprises whether good or bad, you will grow through the experience of whatever it is.
    It may not be easy, it may not make sense initially, it won’t be logical – your mind might not comprehend the situation; however because you are open you will give yourself the privilege to grow from the experience.

    This is my testimony from that Sunday evening on the 27th of August, 2017. I have grown a whole lot from that experience; I am becoming a better person, I have met incredibly amazing people like Chika Jonah, I have made more money, I have done things I never imagined before then I could do, I have been to places I never imagine I could be.

    Has it been easy … NO!
    Has it been worth it … DEFINITELY YES!!!
    And am eternally grateful to God for giving me the privilege of the experience.

    PS: I wish I could share with you the whole experience but time and space would not permit me to.
    However, if there is one thing you should know at this point is that: the lady is now married and I am partially single. *laughs*

    Please permit me to ask this question, if you are open minded you’ll get the answer easily.

    The short story I shared in the post, do you think its a love story, an heartbreak story, a business story, a life story or a story I just made up?

    Please I would really love to hear your responses

    Thank you very much.

  • GUEST POST: EMOTIONAL CONDOM

    Its such a miracle how God uses the simplest silliest things *laughs* to inspire us and leave us perplexed at his wisdom. That was what happened with this post.

    My featured guest blogger this week is; Ebisidor Ann Azu.

    Bio – Ebisidor Ann has been a blogger for some time now, she is also a teen coach, mentor, author and the mouthpiece of The Siaisiai Ebisidor Foundation. (A movement that puts smiles on the faces of children as we put them in classrooms). She is passionate about healthy relationships, people living their best life the way God intended and lifting children up to love and growth. She blogs passionately at www.talk2ebijanded.com you should go see what she’s up to.

    This is what she shares;

    Can I have a condom please?
    If you had bagged some negative acts/dramas last year 2019, fall in here and read this piece. Trust me, it’s not that deep but it’s a must read so as to have a better 2020.

    When Chika, reached out to me in respect to featuring me on her blog, the issue on getting what to write on bothered me. I thought to myself,what on earth can I possibly write on; it just popped up to write on emotional condom.

    As we know that condom is a cool protection used when having sex and it’s basically against sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancy as the case may be.

    Today, I’ll be writing on emotional condom. Protecting yourself from emotional stress,issues, dramas this year.

    An emotional condom is the mental parallel to the physical condom – an actual condom keeps your sexual organs from getting damaged, an emotional condom keeps your heart and mind from getting damaged.

    Last year, I personally did not use this condom and a whole lot happened to me… Trust me, I know better now. It is my responsibility to get an emotional condom for myself to have a cool year. You should too!

    *An Emotional condom in respect to relationship (Friendship or dating)*

    When you don’t trust a friend enough to let them get close to you.

    When to wear a “friendship condom”?

    When you are still friends but you don’t open up to them or get close emotionally in fear of them being fake with bad intentions. You must be careful trust me.

    When to wear a “dating condom”?

    My darling, you must be more careful. You should know by now with all the experiences you’ve had that you’re not a trash spot. If they are not making conscious effort to be in your life, please leave them with no second thought. It’s your life you know. Better to be alone than be emotionally messed up.

    I remember a friend of mine that cried a number of times because the love cards did not favour her… The only advice I could think of giving her was to allow love be for now, be whole as a single, find new ways to loving herself more and somehow, love would find her. This worked for me though and I pray it does for her.

    Come to think of it, this piece is not strictly on emotions only, you can apply it to physical, psychological, and financial aspects of your life. The most important thing is that the condom is used.

    This year 2020,don’t go everywhere…

    Don’t do everything…

    Don’t allow everything…

    Ensure that you are emotionally protected. Learn to say no when you need to.

    Do not trade your happiness for anything.

    Stay alone if it gives you peace of mind.

    Read good books and keep good company.

    Invest and help humanity this year.

    From my janded empire,I wish you a 2020 of progress and good tidings. Cheers.

    If this post has inspired you, don’t leave without dropping a lovely comment for Ebisidor and a comment to encourage others. God bless you. Hugs xoxo.

  • Try erasing those mistakes again; I have a surprise for you.

    *laughs* You’re probably going to make the same mistake I just did. The funny thing is that we already have at the back of our mind that we are in the new year and the new decade. I mean some of us have laid out new year resolutions, visions, plans, scheduled events, hangouts, to do and do nots etc. Some have been singing 2020 since the month of September last year.

    So why then do more than half of the world’s population end up making this same mistake?

    Because changes are inevitable and we must adjust to them whether we like it or not and whether we are prepared for it or not.

    So I’m leaving you with this. This year comes with the full package of everything. I’m not going to beat my chest and tell you its all going to be all rosy and cozy. No. Like every other year its going to come with uncertainties. The best would be to be prepared but sometimes we don’t see the back of the dress we wear to know if it fits properly, so when those changes come, weather good or bad. Rise above those changes. Don’t run. Don’t hide. Don’t give excuses. Don’t shy away. Handle them. Handle those changes with God and a sound mind. Keep writing 2020 till no one notices 2019 was once written before No matter how many erasers break keep erasing it till it turns out perfect.

    Keep erasing the bad habits, garbages, negativity, low self esteem till you see the picture of the ‘you’ you’ve always envision to see radiate so brightly.

    PS – Don’t be shocked that I don’t have new year resolutions, or a list of how my last year went. The truth is what I’m going to tell you is not enough compared to what these four persons are going to share with you on the blog this month.

    Yes!!

    You heard right. I’ll be featuring four guest post from four people that made my year one of growth and daring to take chances. These people have blessed me with their wealth of knowledge, their expertise and their story, and I want you to get what I got, to see/feel the impact they’ve impacted and to learn what I have learnt from them. I’ll be posting each post every Friday in this month of January. So watch out for my next post this Friday and other posts to come.

    Thank you.

    Don’t stop sharing, liking and commenting on each post. Much love xoxo.